This is a post dedicated to everyone who have witnessed the big twitter incident going on which involved me and my personal tweet specifically,
“Lesson for all girls. Don’t date a boy who can’t even take you out to a nice dinner place or even a movie. DATE A MAN WHO WOULD DO THAT”
Who would think that one tweet would reach so many individuals I don’t even know? It’s really shocking what social media can do and quite disappointing for people who are being bashed for just saying a subjective opinion. This post is not to defend myself but to clear things out. I prevented myself from checking all the tweets pertaining to me because I’m sure it will just put me in rage, mess up my mood and confuse me with my own point of view. I don’t fight back because I am not that type of person, I would never bash anyone for saying what they feel even if I am against them. I’d rather sit in my couch and ignore. Although, I can’t help but notice all the texts I’ve been receiving from my friends, so here’s what you have and would want to hear.
What is my reason for tweeting such thing you might ask?
We all have our stories, experiences and thoughts; I am used to tweeting about everything there is in my head because it is a way for me to use the power that we all have, Freedom of Expression. The tweet I’ve made was based on a bad experience; I felt I was a victim of. My parents know how much hard work I put into my career and because of that I am proud to say that in my 20’s, I am independent enough to pay for my own bills and never ask my parents for cash. I even spoil my family with their wants just because. From past experience, I have spent a lot for a guy and never complained about it until my parents noticed how I was the one standing us an adult as if I was dating a child. My tweet is a warning for girls who might be used for their money, that’s it. I have seen names of people making a big deal out of it, but I’m not going to mention anyone.
I also don’t get people calling me a gold digger, my tweet was simple: Don’t date a boy who can’t even take you out to a nice dinner place or even a movie. I didn’t say don’t date a boy who can’t even take you out to a fancy restaurant. It’s not like I’m asking for a car, a concert ticket, or an Iphone. If a man values you enough, he would take initiative in doing so.
So why did I delete my tweet instead of defending myself on twitter and replying to bashers?
I have seen a lot of these occurrences on Twitter already. Fighting back would not help, but would push the public to bash more, same as with defending myself. So I didn’t bother. Deleting my tweet does not mean I can’t defend myself or stick up to my word but in hopes of stopping media/people to continuously react to what they’ve misunderstood, which unfortunately did not happen.
Some of you might be worried about how I feel, especially my friends who even called my mom (lol). I am so glad to have you guys who have been there ever since. Don’t worry about me; I am always your happy Cha. No matter what issue I may go through, there’s no problem I can’t face. So don’t worry about me, I can handle this.
Also, if you have watched my Snapchat I am not insulting anyone out of my optimism; it’s just how I normally deal with life. Again for those who were offended and who misunderstood everything I’ve said, I’m sorry.
SOCIAL MEDIA VS. YOU
This is where the actual article begins. Again this is a personal statement, I will explain everything clearly so no one will misinterpret again.
I have witnessed these things happen and it isn’t new to me anymore. There’s no other way to handle it professionally but to keep quiet and to state your unambiguous stand, which is if you have one. We are all aware how big social media is and the pros and cons of it but still we enjoy it as much. Question is why do we have social media? Why do we even need it? For bloggers, influencers, celebrities and online personalities, Social media is a need. We need it for publicity, for interacting to the public, to gain readers, followers and likes. Some need it for communication, to be updated, to join the bandwagon and what we all have in common is we use social media to express ourselves, what we really are, what we do, what we like to eat, our personal stand regarding everything we have in mind. We share personal things in social media and it’s our decision if we share it to the public or not.
Now the question I keep asking myself every time incidents like this happens, do we really have freedom of expression? Yes we still do have it. The only thing holding us back is the public who will always have a stand against your idea and it isn’t our fault if people disagree. Some people are sometimes very vocal; some tend to keep notions to their selves. We all have the democracy to speak up, we were given that free will but because of cyber bullying, what is freedom of expression now? When can we use social media in a way that no one is being bashed for what they say? My answer: Never.
Social media goes in circles, you say something, they hate you for it even if you didn’t do anything wrong to them, you get bashed, it ends, next thing you know another issue pops out of nowhere. Life has been based on everything you say or do online. We are all enjoying it yet what we don’t know is the dark side of humanity being produced behind it. As a blogger, I know how toxic social media can be, that’s why I take breaks. I turn my phone off, relax and type. Now if people keep bothering me about this issue, I don’t have to explain myself anymore, you’ve heard my stand.
I don’t need anyone to defend me. I don’t even have to prove myself right. I have carried myself alone ever since, so there’s no point in searching for allies. If you’re reading until here remember, it’s you alone versus social media.